The Questions Would Never Stop

Do we human beings have to go through a life of never-ending questioning by well-meaning people, mostly in areas that are absolutely of no concern to them per say? I’m sure you know what I’m talking about.

When I finished school and started working, people asked me when I was getting married. (Thankfully I skipped one step of being asked when I was getting attached because I found my boyfriend at a very young age. He eventually became my husband). After I got married, people asked when I was going to have my first kid. After I had my first kid, people asked when I was having a second kid. After my second kid, people asked when I was having a third. In between, I got a lot of ‘When are you sending your kids to school?”, “When are starting them on piano, swimming, abacus?”, “Don’t you want to try for a boy?” Frankly, will the questions ever stop? I seriously doubt it.

We Asians have a funny way of connecting with each other. We do so with questions. A most common rhetorical question we ask is ‘Have you eaten?’ More often than not, we don’t pay attention to the answer. It’s more like a greeting than anything else, because the answer is not important at all. Apparently, to the Asians especially Chinese, having a full stomach is happiness. That, I agree to a certain degree. =P

Do I get irritated by the constant questioning? Even though they do get a little too much at times, I actually feel quite warm in my heart by the genuine concern of the people around me. I love kids and I admit they bring much joy to my life. But do I want a third kid? Speaking from a mother’s heart, I do. I think the more kids there are in the house, the more fun the kids can have growing up together. But coming from sanity, I am happy with just two. Hubby and I can take care of one each and handle very well. That’s really important to me to stay a sane and happy working mum. So I am very happy with what I have now. My mother-in-law’s motto in life is to be contented. Contentment is great gain, and something I strive for too.

Come to think about it. I’ve got two kiddos at home who can’t stop asking questions too. Looks like my life is set.


Klessis Lee

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