Monday, October 28, 2013

Ten Things That Keep My Marriage Strong

One of the things I am extremely thankful for in my life is my strong marriage. It is an important anchor in my life and gives me the balance, happiness and confidence that I need.

A strong and happy marriage is definitely not something we can take for granted. In fact, in this time and age, with divorce rates on the rise and more people losing confidence in marriage, it takes a lot of effort to keep a marriage going and more so to make it happy and strong.

I was very shocked when I heard the recent news about the possible arrival of Ashley Madison, a dating site for married couples, in Singapore next year. I may be living in a modern time and age, but I am still very old-fashioned. To me, certain values and principles can never be compromised. To see such a wave of blatant propaganda of unacceptable acts is very scary. The very fact that such agencies exist and are even expanding all over the world show that world is accepting extra-marital affairs and flings to be a social norm. This is definitely not the world that I want my kids to grow up in.

I've got friends who commented before that since I have a rather strong foundation for my relationship with the husband, my marriage should be more steady and secure. It's true that since we have been together for 20 years, we have a certain level of mutual understanding and faith. But it would be very shallow to assume that such a marriage needs minimal maintenance. In fact, I found that the more important a person is to me, the more effort I must put into building up that relationship. Complacency is the biggest stumbling block in relationships.

I thought about my own marriage and came up with a list of 10 things that help to keep our marriage strong and happy:

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1. We have the same faith – We are Christians.

2. We serve and are firmly rooted in the same Church.

3. We are constantly in contact with each other through Whatsapp during the day when we are not with each other.

4. We are parents of two wonderful daughters.

5. We make it a point that the other party will always be the first to know of important events/news in our lives.

6. We share common interests - Blogging, photography & travelling. That gives us common topics to talk about.

7. We are frank about our feelings to each other & make effort to resolve any issues A.S.A.P.

8. No matter what happens, I am always on his side and he on mine. Yes, that includes conflicts with parents and parents-in-law.

9. We plan and go on dates and us-only trips overseas.

10. I tell the husband when I miss him. He does the same.

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What are the things you do to keep your marriage strong and happy? :)

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